The lighting of the unity candle is a symbolic act that is now gaining popularity in weddings, especially in the USA. The lighting of the unity candle symbolizes the joining together of two families through the union of husband and wife; two people becoming one through marriage.
The unity candle ceremony actually consists of 3 candles; a large pillar candle in the center and two slim taper candles on both sides. The ceremony generally starts with a representative from the bride and the groom’s family (usually the mothers of the bride and grooms) will light the 2 taper candles. Then at some point during the ceremony after the formal vows, the candles will be handed to the couple. The bride and groom will each use the lighted taper candles to light the large pillar candle.
Other popular ways of lighting the taper candles include:
- The candles are already lit before the ceremony starts with each candle representing the couple.
- The groom will light his taper and after the bride walks down the aisle she lights hers.
- If the bride and groom are bringing children into the marriage, the children may also light the tapers
There are no hard and fast rules on how the unity candles should be lighted or when. The candles used for the ceremony may be simple or decorated with the wedding invitation, bride and grooms picture, inscriptions and other accessories. Some couples opt to keep it lit throughout the wedding and reception while some blow of the candles after the wedding.
Some couples choose to have their favorite song in the background as they are lighting the candle. Some choose to have special poems, prayers, or dedications read while some prefer silence. The couple can do whatever they want, as long as it’s meaningful for them and their families.
Keep in mind that the use of unity candle ceremony is not part of the traditional wedding ceremonies of any religion. The Unity Candle ceremony is non-denominational, which means it has no religious significance and it is prohibited in some churches. If you want to go through with it, it’s best to check prior to your wedding if your church will allow it.
