Getting married is one of most exciting times that could happen in any woman's life. In fact, you are not the only one who will get excited as your family and friends will be as well. Weddings are a very a special occasion and you just can't help that some people would want to be a part of it every step of the way. Some of your friends will want to be a part of this very special occasion and some of them will even assume that you will pick them as one of you bridesmaids.
If you were to have it your way, you would want all your girlfriends to be your bridesmaids. But this is not a possibility. So how do you tell a friend that is she is not a bridesmaid? This situation is sometimes unavoidable and if you don't handle it right, you might end up hurting your friend's feelings. This is a sticky situation and you would need to think this through before you talk to your friend. This may be tough but with the right attitude, you will be able to get away well from this predicament.
The first thing that you would have to do is to let your friend know what is happening in the most frank, honest yet gentle way. Explain to her, that you have given this much thought but the best course as of this time is that you prefer to keep your bridesmaids to a minimum. Tell her that this is one of the toughest decisions you ever had to make but she can still help out during the wedding by handing out programs, reciting a reading or decorating the venue and church.
However, if you find yourself in a situation where you have to choose other ladies to stand in as your bridesmaids, just be honest and straightforward. When it comes to choosing bridesmaids, you have to consider your relatives and other members of your family. Tell your friend that you have to choose other people that you feel closer to at this point such as your relatives and family members and it pains you that you have to leave her out and other special people in your life. She may not understand you at first, but it will lift a heavy weight off your shoulders by just telling her.
The last thing that you have to keep in mind is to never ignore the situation. Honesty is still the best policy.
